rauch4322's Blog

The way I read it, your parents knew you were going with Ryan, which means you must have told them you are either gay or bi. They obviously know that you've broken things off with Ryan, whether from you telling them or Ryan telling them. Is it not possible for you to simply ASK them why they believe Ryan's version of what happened, and not YOUR version? Why would they believe the 'dumped' person? Everyone knows the dumpee is the one with the grudge.A wise man told me that whether it seems like it or not, nobody really likes an argument or a fight. What one needs to do is figure out how to resolve the problem (which it seems to me is more that your parents need to believe you over Ryan than your issue with Ryan) without getting into a fight. If your dad seems to be lecturing you about responsibility, getting screaming mad at him for the implied (or direct) insult doesn't help anything. Maybe agreeing that responsibility is a serious matter, and then following it with a request to talk about these issues calmly, might work out better. Take the wind out of his sails by agreeing, then asking for his responsible advice. Who knows, it might even be good advice, and it can't make it any worse than the frustration you're having now.Good luck.

...there are always miscommunications, so it is as they say, "wise", to not make conflict over what you hear someone else say - it's a good way to blow things up, if what they say evokes emotions - let the emotions go, because those emotions will just create so much conflict if you let them compel you.