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  1. I’ll never forget a conversation I had at fourteen with my parents when my Dad said something to me that I’ll never forget and will pass on to Mark, JC and any other kids we have: “We are all either the beneficiaries or victims of choices we make in our lives. It’s our place, as parents, to offer unconditional love to our children but unconditional love does not mean unconditional approval or unconditional acceptance of the choices you make. You, your brother and sister will always have our love, no matter what, but will not always have our approval of your choices. The greatest lesson we, as parents, can teach you is that you must accept the consequences of the decisions you have made. Those consequences may also affect our lives but will never affect our love for the three of you.”

    I don’t envy you and David, Richard. You’re at a defining moment with this boy but also with your younger foster son and don’t think for a moment that he isn’t watching and learning about how you respond to the older boy’s dilemma. If Carl sees you standing by the fifteen year old out of love, he’ll feel reassured of your love for him also. It’s important for both boys to see and feel the love that you show but also see that you don’t condone the actions of the fifteen year old.

    Good Luck!

    Tim

  2. I've used MS Office Lite (the portable version) 2007 since starting Law School because it's not a resource hog like the installed version and Open Office. With my new job, however, I need to use excel and excel 2007 is very confusing. Luckily, I have a friend who gave me a copy of MS Office 2003 where excel is much more intuitive and now I use it exclusively.

    Tim

  3. It might interest you to know that Codey didn't like my original title for this story, I can't remember what it was now; anyway Codey finally agreed that Definitions "would work." So that's how it got its title.

    If you haven't read the story, please do, and of course feedback is welcome...I'll sit here waiting. :allalone[1]:

    I'm not surprised that Codey liked the title "Definitions" because that seems to be the theme in this story. It's about defining ourselves and others as well as others defining themselves and us. Back in the early days of CW, I was a hater of reading (still am for the most part) and am sure that this was one of those stories that Codey told me I had to read. Whenever he came across a story he really liked he'd try making me read it. He'd keep bugging me "have you read it yet, have you read it yet?" over and over until I'd finally give him one of my two stock answers. I would either say "yes" or I'd say say "sooner or later".

    Codey felt strongly that the first step to acceptance was defining ourselves. This definition, we give ourselves, defines what we can accept and remain true to ourselves. Our self-definition sets the parameters for the relationships we have with those around us.

    I have always had a need to assert my independence when under pressure from others. My self-definition, and love for him, would not allow me to lie to Codey and tell him I'd read something when I hadn't so "sooner or later" was my way of saying "no, and I'm not going to". In turn, Codey's self-definition and love for me let him accept my non-commital "sooner or later" and the matter would be dropped...at least until the next story I "had to read" came along.

    What's this got to do with Des' great little story? Beats the Hell out of me! I guess today's my day to ramble.

    Tim

  4. What is needed is to revise all those stupid zero tolorance rules school districts have been putting in place. Sounds good on first glance until you're the victim of bullying and fight back to protect yourself. You find tourself and the bully suspended because "zero tolorance means zero tolorance". This is exactly what happened to Codey who physically fought back against a physical attack and to my brother who stepped in to defend Codey. They both recieved the same punishment as the attacker who was proud of his suspension...it's a badge of honor for ppl like him.

    I guess, unless you're an adult, your right to defend yourself or some other innocent party simply disappears.

    Tim

  5. Good guess...I actually do have IE6 and use it regularly. As far as needing java help, I'm pretty good there too. I make a damn good pot nearly every morning. I'd guess it's the Brits that need help with thier java since they're so into the whole tea thing. :confused:

    Tim

  6. A friend whom I've been encouraging to get a voice activated typing system because of severe arthritis just sent me this message. Can anyone help?

    Dragon took name, voice modulation but keeps telling me it's not loud enough. I turned the volume on the computer all the way up. Still not loud enough. Dragon help in not available Saturday and Sunday. I'll let you know what happens Monday.

    C

    Cole, you didn't say what kind of computer your friend is using. It's important and if he's/she's using a laptop with a built-in mic, he/she will have to make sure the built-in mic is turned off and the option for external mic selected. They can do this by right clicking the speaker symbol in the tray and choose adjust audio properties.

    Tim

  7. I absolutely love this poem!!! It brings back a memory of a time my dad walked in on me in a session. I told him I had an itch and was just scratching. He said "un huh but next time you want to scratch yourself lock the door." He never mentioned that he'd caught me but I still had a hard time facing him for days! LMAO

    Tim

  8. Those of you who don't vist Codey's World (and shame on you! LOL), won't know that I'm a big bluegrass fan. I discovered these kids on youtube last Spring and have been following them since. They've been on Letterman, GMA and Huckabee on TV and this September appeared on The Grand Ol Oprey. Their current ages are nine, twelve and fourteen.

    They have their first CD called "America's Music" out now. This latest upload to youtube is available on amazon and iphone and all proceeds go to a charity to feed children...so their hearts are in the right place. Watch this Christmas Song and be amazed!

    Tim

  9. I found this guy on youtube a couple of years ago and posted the link on CW. His name is Tom Milsom and I followed his career for about a year when he left England to come to the States and apparently he's back in England now.

    This is the link to my favorite song of his. Believe it or not, he accompanies himself on a gamboy. lmao

    http://www.youtube.c...u/5/CUgdQKigCf0

    He, Charlie and two of their other friends formed a band called Sons of Admirals and made a fantastic music vid Called "Here Comes My Baby"...I beleive it's on either Tom's or Charlies you tube channel.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=iv&src_vid=VD4bFD2eKPM&annotation_id=annotation_366234&v=vR5wKLfzGHo

    here's the link to the music video

    Tim

  10. Thanks Luggie, Mike and Chris. Dude is right that getting the word out is half the battle...the other half is making teens feel comfortable, safe, and at home on a site. As site owners and admins, we have to remember that even gay kids spend more time in the straight world than the gay world. CW was and is a place where all are welcome: gay/straight, young/old or boy/girl. It's our responsibility to offer them a window to thier own real life world as well as the chance to visit other people's real life worlds. If we ever expect all these worlds to get along, we have to introduce them, to each other, in a way that no one feels threatened by the other. This was the essence of Cody's dream.

    Tim

  11. When I was knee high to a grasshopper my cousin used to work for Cadbury as a sales rep. When he visited he'd let me into the boot (trunk) of his car and I'd rush off to my room with my considerable spoils and nosh myself silly. :redface::smile:

    Well, I always heard that the next step to crazy, after hairy palms, from noshing too much, was sillyness!

    Tim

  12. Hi, every one!

    I’m Tim and have an announcement. We’re starting a new push for younger writers: teens who’d like to write but are afraid to try. All of us, despite our ages, have stories in us. For some, the urge to write is there but they’re worried that they might not be any good. Codey was the same and look how that turned out!

    We’re a full service site here…don’t worry about whether you’re “good enough”. We have a great bunch of talented authors and they’re here to help you. If you write it, we’ll publish it online. We’re not looking for the next Codey but are trying to fulfill his dream of giving EVERYONE a chance to write their story. We’ll line you up with a real life editor to help you with spelling and punctuation and a few tips to tell you how to make the story more readable.

    What are we looking for? Any kind of story you’ll write…it doesn’t have to be gay ( as a matter of fact, we need more non-gay stories) it just has to be that story you have in your head. You maintain all rights to your story and can use a pen name…we recommend that you do not post under your real name. If, at anytime, you want to also post your story or stories at another site and want them taken down from Codey’s World, we’ll gladly do that. Our only goal is to encourage teens to explore writing.

    You can write any kind of story about anything but we will not accept stories with sex or drug usage in them. Science Fiction, Fantasy, Comedy, Drama, Poetry or just plain “a good story” are all acceptable. For more info email webguys@codeysworld.com and an admin will answer asap.

  13. We hear a lot, lately, about bullying. Bullying has been around as long as we humans have been. Some bullies are made, by circumstances in their rearing, and some are just born bullies. I think we can all agree that bullying is wrong and is a problem we should all strive to correct. Those bullies, who are created by circumstance, can be helped to understand what is at the root of their bullying and, in most cases, can change. Those born bullies, however, will always be bullies and all we can hope for is a change in behavior. A change in behavior is not a cure to bullying but can be brought about by strict enforcement of anti-bullying rules for both children in school and for adults. Bullying, in some form, will always be with us. How is it that even verbal bullying has such a profound effect on us?

    I think that, in many cases, we let the bullies convince us that they're right about us?that we're flawed, in some way, and will always be flawed. We begin to believe that we have no future and this leads to despair which, in too many cases, leads to just giving up and suicide as our only way out. What does this have to do with Coming Out Day? Everything!

    As much as we don't want it and most deny it, we who are older are role models. How many of us saw older gay committed couples as we were growing up? How many saw successful gays leading a happy life as an openly gay man or woman? How many younger kids have seen these examples which could give them hope and a reason to live? Damn few!

    I'm not now advocating, nor encouraging, that teens come out unless they are absolutely sure that they will be accepted by family and friends. Teens need a safety net and sometimes that net is made up of silence. Many are still not mature enough to withstand the bullying without being shown that they have hope. What they see, instead of hope, is nothing.

    Sure, they can come online and read all the posts about how mistreated we all are and how we're being denied our human rights but what do they see in their real life neighborhoods and towns? Where are the adults who should be showing them that they can live a good life? Where are all those internet posters with all their whining? Hiding! They've fallen prey to the gays are flawed argument and use the net to vent in the safety of anonymity.

    Codey said this much better than I ever could in his poem http://www.codeysworld.com/codey/poems/doors_and_masks.htm. If we want to change the way things are, we need to become activists. You don't have to march in the streets or carry signs to be an activist?you only have to be you and proud of who you are. You only have to open that door and step through. Will it be easy? Probably not but, if lives are saved, it'll be worth it. We have to show these younger gays that hope is based in reality and not some abstract idea. Showing them that reality will inspire them to hope. The reality they see now only shows them an unfulfilling life lived in anonymity and anger.

    :shock: Tim

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