[Dear Annie: Dad forbids gay friends]

Sumbloke - I agree with pretty much everything you said. I think everyone agrees that this kid is great. He obviously is an open and loving kid. I guess that I believe that the reason why everyone wasn't so open to give congrats was because he has so far to go and so does his friend and that is what we are all focusing on. So, yes, we should be congratulating him, but we are all just a little too scared for what is going to happen to both of them to focus on how far they have come. Maybe a little pessimistic on our part...

Thanks for reminding us of the good.

[Dear Annie: Dad forbids gay friends]

I just want to say, not to be difficult or get into an argument, but the whole PDA thing really depends on the school.

My high school didn't really punish for it except for like you said, a little settle it down from a teacher.

BUT, I know someone who goes to a different high school than I did, who recently got into very big trouble for kissing a girl at school.

As for the rest of the article, I just hope they both find some way to get on. I agree that there probably won't be any changing the dad's mind. If he is that out of it that he thinks that it will brush off on his kid or whatever, he obviously has his mind set and is very into his own beliefs.

And if we can't change the dad's mind, at least we know the new generation knows better. (I'm working on my positive thinking)

[This is awesome, in more ways than one.]

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[Everybody's Wounded]

I have been reading it too, and in my opinion, it is absolutely excellent. It is so true in some respects with the relationships and emotions, that it just hurts to read.

The problem is that I always want a very happy ending to any story I read (I get too much real world, non-happy stuff on a daily basis) and I have no idea how this story can end happily or at least totally happy in my mind!

Perhaps he could add another really great character, so that there could be two totally perfect couples?

[DFL?]

hehe - so after going back to the main page, I realized that the letters DFL were highlighted right above the short stories. Oops!

[DFL?]

Thanks so much. That really clears things up. I think that I have read a couple of the stories there, but I will definitely try to read some more.

[Gay men Navigate like women]

I'm gay, but if I see a particularly good looking girl I'll ogle her especially if she has big bazoombas out to here! sneaky.gif But get into a relationship with a girl? Nada! No way, Jose! Nyet!

Ok, so I am very much the same in this respect, along with many of my straight friends. I am very much a believer in the, well I can't remember what it is called, but that whole line thing with variances between gay and straight. I always recognize how attractive a particular person is, but then I realize whether are not I am attracted to them personally. I mean, I am totally to one side, but sometimes I wonder why I can be so open about a girl and find such beauty in them, but not be attracted to them.

Additionally, it kind of perplexes me when someone finds their "one" and that person isn't exactly their personal "type". So, you can think that you totally have a "type" that you are attracted to, but your best relationship isn't with that exact "type".

[DFL?]

OK, so I don't know exactly where to post this and it isn't some big huge thing, but what does DFL mean under the short story section of the main page?

Thanks and sorry for the random question!

Ipsa

[Gay men Navigate like women]

Me - I would like to hear others' thoughts on the topic. The different views and theories are always interesting.

[Sunburnt Aussies]

YUM!

I believe that is all that needs to be said.

[Awesome adventure for the cool dude]

That was seriously fantastic! Ok, so I haven't seen this before, but are they like giant squirrels or something in those suits?

[Duck Duck Goose]

ooohh, are you accusing a writer of exaggerating? Or perhaps it was an editor just editing...

[Hijack This Topic]

OK, so I'm not all that experienced with this kind of stuff, so if it is a funny question don't laugh too hard, but what is with the whole black line thing?

P.S. While I'm discussing things that I don't really know much about, I just have to say that I hate when I try to select a topic and I accidentally select a person instead. I do it all of the time. And then, me being me, I feel like everyone is going to think that I am some sort of stalker. So, if I click your name a million times (which I still don't know when people know that), sorry. I am not a stalker, just learning the system or whatever.

[Sunburnt Aussies]

So the cat can stay? hmm, I would think that it would be the car parts. Let me know how that goes.

[2008 Motto]

As much fun as that would be, I don't know if that plan is all that advisable being as dogs will almost eat or hump anything...Besides that, all of the pissing may get a little messy.

“Stress is basically a disconnection from the earth, a forgetting of the breath. Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important. Just lie down.” - Natalie Goldberg

[First try...]

So, I haven't been home because of all of the holiday celebrations, but I wanted to thank everyone for their comments.

Blue - I have thought about the implications of the statement, and think that it is a legit state of mind at the time. It is somewhat a part of the character's process in the story. If I am actually able to show that properly will be another question. I definitely understand your concern, though and will tread carefully.

[First try...]

OK, so I thought that I would give a little more info or clarify...or whatever. I have been writing stuff off and on forever. It has always just been my thoughts without any real structure. Sometimes I guess it kind of ends up being a poem or whatever, but this is my first try writing something that I actually plan on writing and being creative about it since probably early high school creative writing. I tested out of my upper high school English/literature classes and my undergrad ones, so I am kind of lacking in any creative writing at all. I am currently in law school, so I guess that is creative writing of a sort. (hehe, I just made a lawyer joke before anyone else could.) Because of that, my time is pretty limited. All that I have written was done when I was supposed to be studying...

I guess that I didn't mean to imply that I would quit writing if no one liked it. It was more that I didn't want to write with the thought of other people reading it if it was bad. I didn't want to plan on a good thing, if it wasn't going to happen or something. Kind of like trying to get the rejection out of the way at the beginning rather than the end or something? I thought that if no one liked the intro, which pretty much sums up all of my skill, style, and personality, than no one would like the story as a whole. I had also had a couple of drinks last night and it seemed like a good idea at the time. I have been reading the forum forever, but I'm kinda shy or whatever and just never posted anything. I guess I decided it was time.

Sorry if that was just too much information, but I guess I thought that I should clarify. It also seems that after I posted once, it isn't as hard the second time.

[First try...]

OK, so I have been reading for a while and always wanted to try to write. I have started a story, but I decided that I need to find out if it is any good at all before I spend hours and hours on it and then try to submit the whole thing. Maybe a little pessimistic, but ohh well. I am going to post about the first chapter and I would like some input. I don't take criticism all that well, so be gentle...I don't really want all that much info in the way of how it needs to be edited, but more as in whether it is any good at all. I know that it may seem a little random. That is the way the whole story is going (kind of my personality), so if that doesn't work at all let me know. Thanks!

"Obsession. That's what it has to be. I mean, seriously, real people don't feel like this. This is way beyond a crush. It can't be normal. And this coming from me. The totally oblivious one. It is so bizarre. One day I was totally hetero, and the next, I have a crush on a guy. I definitely didn't see that one coming. It doesn't always occur to a guy that they may be gay. I mean, straight is like a default setting, right? I didn't feel attracted to guys before. Although, I wasn't particularly attracted to anyone before. I hate the term "late bloomer". First of all, the word bloomer is just an awful awkward old word for underwear that my grandmother would use. I in no way want to be compared with old underwear. Second, if people were plants, who is to say they aren't more like trees or something? I mean, they don't start, like, giving off their seed or whatever until they are almost dying, right? So, in other words, they are at their best before they think about reproducing, meaning sexuality. So, maybe I was at my best before I was attracted to guys. Oblivious. And being a late bloomer means that I will live longer. Or something.

It's weird how you can go through your years of school seeing the same people day after day and then all of the sudden...BAM! You're attracted to someone. The same someone you had class with yesterday, but all of the sudden they seem different...or maybe you're different...and you can't stop looking at them. You notice their eyes, the way they smile, and of course their body. Who wouldn't notice a body like that? And there they are. All cool and oblivious to the "butterflies" in your stomach. (Again with an odd expression. Butterflies? Really? It definitely doesn't feel like butterflies. Something much stronger. Like bats. Or crows. They have some power behind their wings. I don't think that butterflies would make me feel this sick. I think that I can actually see my stomach moving from the outside.)

So, there was a BAM! At least that's the way it feels. Like it came out of nowhere. Although, I'm sure that it happened quite a bit slower than that. It probably just felt so quick because it was such a surprise to the previously straight me. Looking back, I guess that I can kind of see it creeping up on me. Noticing one more little thing after another, until I finally notice that I am noticing. That's where the BAM comes in. Seriously, it's a good thing that I'm not a homophobe or something. Thank God for a liberal mom.

So yeah, I definitely have a crush (or maybe an obsession), and it definitely is not on a girl. I guess I'll just have to go with it. Well, personally at least. I mean, sharing at this point would probably be a little bit premature or something. I haven't ever thought about what it would be like to come out. Thinking that I was at the default setting and all. Aren't there like horror stories or something about kids coming out? Yeah, I think I need to think about this for a while. It seems pretty private to me. I kind of like to keep private things private.

God, I need to get out of this class. This has been way to much introspection for me in a day. And there he is. Just sitting there. I wonder if he is actually listening to the teacher..."