blue Posted May 7, 2006 Report Share Posted May 7, 2006 This is a tough, weighty topic. It isn't light and funny. But sometimes real life is like that, and it's something that needs to be talked about. For some people, it may be hard to take, so please be careful, as it's emotionally loaded. Recently, various friends and their loved ones have had trouble dealing with depression or suicide. A few friends here have had times in their past or present that continue to worry them. I want to address that, please. ----- Suicide is forgetting for just a moment too long that there are other choices we don't see and people who love us, maybe just around the corner. It harms the one it takes. It harms the ones left behind, who would give anything to undo their loved one's actions, and to know why that loved one thought it was so impossible to choose anything else or tell anyone what hurt so bad to make it seem the only option. Depression's a big, formless nothing, a hole that tries to swallow and smother and give back nothing. It doesn't even actively hate. It just consumes and destroys. I have been too near both myself. They are ugly, monstrous things. I have friends who have been too near them both too. One of my childhood friends may have been lost from this life to them. But I will see the people no longer in this part of life, when I get to whatever is beyond it. I have fought back. I have turned away. I still deal with depression. Sometimes it's gone, sometimes it's there. For my friends and family, including more than one here, I say -- Fight back. Turn away. Get help. Even if you don't know anyone now that you feel safe to talk to, I know there are people who care and who will help you get through whatever it is and help you get back to your better self. It is OK to tell someone. It's OK to lean on their support and let them carry you a little while, until you can get going again. Be different. Make a difference. Be true to yourself. There are people in your life who love you and want to help. Be at peace, you are not junk. You are not useless. I use one or two lines in my signature online to remind myself and to remind others that we are imperfect, but we can change and become better. "You can be more." ~ Farscape "You can't take the sky from me." ~ Firefly Those are quotes from shows in which the characters are all flawed, but they struggle and achieve amazing things. Sometimes it seems like they lose, but they overcome. Quote Link to comment
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