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I don't think that I'm qualified to really answer. She probably IS scared to lose anyone else, and that is quite natural, considering the recent history. I don't think you should say something like that she won't lose someone she loves, because she could suffer another loss right away, maybe due to car accident. Who knows. I suspect that the best way to ask her 'out' is not on a date, but something else, that isn't really a date, but maybe something she just likes to do; something she would enjoy and it gives a chance to talk with you. Maybe a trip together to a nice park, in which spring flowers are starting to bloom?

The only person qualified to answer that is her. I cannot think of any delicate way to go about it. I would, like Trab, suggest a slow start. Maybe a trip to the local Starbucks for a cup of coffee and talk. Let her know you're there for her in any way she needs. Elaborate a little more on each date and gauge her reaction. I normally don't like the slow drawn-out thing, but in this case I might suggest going that route to preserve her emotional stability.

You say she's not depressed, but from that point on, all your descriptions of her point towards depression.I think she should get some professional help. You're probably in college, and if she is too, then almost all colleges these days offer free counselling for students. She hasn't handled her grief well at this point, and with help quite possibly will be able to do better.Your role should be supportive, not romantic. When she's got herself back together, she'll remember what you did for her.Cole

Cole, actually, I am a senior in high school. I just turned 19 not so long ago. My best friend is in my grade and she's 18.

Cole's advice is still good though. Are there school counsellors who can help? Even without that, the supportive role needs to be the primary action, not romance, not yet.