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Cole Parker

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  1. Oh my god, Camy.  That's dreadful.  I'm sure those here who pray will join you.  What they say about atheists and foxholes is certainly true.  I've been there myself.  

    Take care of yourself.  You can't give her all you can if you're not all there yourself.

    I feel impotent about helping.  You probably feel the same.


  2. I haven't run across any scams like that.  I'd guess most merchants are happy for your business and don't want to give you reasons to take your trade elsewhere.  

    I tip well over 15%, but that's because I like a waitress or waiter and the service they provide, not because I feel charitable.  The last contribution I gave was to Wikipedia.  I use that service frequently and think it's only right that people that use a service pay a little.  Sort of like AwesomeDude; people who come here more than once or twice to read stories should pay for the entertainment they're getting.  Fair's fair.

    I guess, Jason, you could have told the lady, "Look, I think this is a worthwhile cause, but you seem to be taking delight in my frustration here.  So, tell you what, I'll donate five dollars if you'll do the same.  No reason I should be the only sucker here.  Let's do this: you give me $5 and I'll click the $10 box."

    Would have been educational to see her response.





  3. 3 hours ago, Camy said:

    I don't believe you're less likely to find your soulmate there than you are in your local supermarket.

    I think it's down to kismet. Some of us live charmed lives... others have a harder time of it.

    I guess it depends on who you are, what your personality it is and your tastes.  For some, it is more likely to find a mate at the grocery store, mostly because the type of person they'd want is more likely to be in the grocery store than getting wasted in a hook-up bar.  But you're certainly right, some people would be better off looking in such a place for a mate if that's the kind of mate they wanted.

    It takes all kinds.  None of us should try to dictate what someone else should like.


  4. I tend to agree with everything you've written, Jason.  People are complex.  You can't define them with any single word.  Yet there seems to be a need to be able to do that.  Call someone a liberal and it's thought you have defined them.  Or a redneck—call someone that and all aspects of him seem to have been covered.  And of course that isn't true.  It might define one little bit of him, but not the whole.  Humans are too complicated to be fully described by a word or phrase.

    I'm not even sure we'd all define 'gay' the same way.  There's an obvious definition, being interested in having sex with your same gender, but as you say, that's only a small part of it.  

    I might quibble with this statement you wrote: I have found in my travels, the “gay community at large” are shallow, promiscuous, addicts, that are too self absorbed to be good friends much less good human beings.

    Some gay people are certainly that way, but I'd never define the gay community that way.  Just look at the denizens who frequent our AD forum.  I doubt that definition fits any of them.  So does that mean they're not part of the 'gay community'?

    The gay community you describe in that way might be the ones who spend a whole lot of time in gay clubs for the sole purpose of hooking up and getting wasted.  That certainly doesn't fit with my view of the gay lifestyle.  I'd use that term to describe a married gay couple raising a family and part of the community they live in that's comprised of families of all kinds.  To me, that's the ideal.  




  5. Jason:

    I have a couple of comments that work for me.  You're a better writer than I am, but I've now written 100 stories in the 13+ years I've been writing and so have learned a couple of important things that impact on you discussion here.

    Without being presumptuous, let me say, first and foremost, you need to have a reason to start a story, something you want to say.  If you abandoned a story several chapters in because you'd stopped getting mail, you started writing it for the wrong reason.  Writing for the purpose of getting your ego stroked doesn't work.  It has to be to scratch an itch you have, to expose a problem or illuminate something that needs the light or for some other personal reason, and definitely not simply to curry flattery from others..

    Second, you need to have an end in sight when you start.  If you don't, you'll do as you suggest—just ramble.  With an end predetermined, you have a target, a goal to write toward.  That'll keep the story focused and give it forward momentum.  A story, especially a long one, desperately needs that.

    And third, writer's block.  I have an answer to that, at least one that works for me.  I get that with many stories I write, and have found a way to obviate it.  It's simple.   We stop writing because where we are in a story is difficult or frustrating of depressing or whatever.  It's no fun to write any more and so you find reasons not to.  Ideas dry up.  You're blocked.  There is an answer: go to another part of the story you know is still ahead, something you have ideas about and are looking forward to writing, and start again there.  Suddenly, no more block.  Suddenly you're writing something you want to write and the words flow again.  

    The great thing about this is, by doing this, the place that stopped you becomes easier to engage with again because now, you only have to get from there to where you've already progressed.  And you'll find it's no longer so difficult to do that.

    I really can't speak for anyone else, but these are points I've learned by doing.




  6. I have a simple solution to your hot wings brouhaha.  You've put up with enough nonsense from that company to kill an oversize horse, yet kept your patience, something that in itself has to be a world record.  But it's time to quit this absurdity, and I'll tell you how.

    Many restaurants list hot wings on their appetizer menus.  I've even seen Mexican restaurants where they're available.  Obviously, you aren't the only one with an addiction for those suckers.  But if so many houses now serve them, why can't yours?  You manage the place; you obviously can have some say about the menu.  So, start serving them every night, and the bonus is, when you leave, you can take a container of them with you.  If you take them as an in-house quality check, you would not even have to pay for them.  Nightly hot wings.  On the house.

    And, ta da, you can kill two birds with one stone if you add salt peter to the sauce recipe.  That way you'll get your wings and not have to worry about inappropriate hard-ons every morning.

    Not sure Nick will be happy about it, but that's a problem to solve another time.  Oh, yeah, I decided N is Nick, and he's a hairy guy of Greek origin who's endowed better than your average chicken wing.


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