Josiah Jacobus-Parker Posted November 7, 2007 Report Share Posted November 7, 2007 OK, I don't know if the individuals who emailed me even browse the forums, but on the off chance that they do, I'm going to fling this out and just go on record for saying this. Perhaps some other authors on this site and the many others, have received emails similar to this: Hey, great story so far--when are they going to have sex? Thanks Steve Buttz or: How come your story doesn't deal with AIDS or HIV? Aren't you meant to be gay? No-name Buttkiss So here's why. Gratuitous, promiscuous sex, drug abuse, and HIV are not part of my life as a gay man. I'm not saying they don't exist, and I'm not saying that they aren't serious issues that seriously need to be dealt with. (Seriously). Because they are. But they're just not issues that I've had to deal with in my experiences of being a gay man. I don't want to write about them. I don't want any part in propagating those stereotypes about gay culture, that we all go home with a different man each night (if only one), do poppers, shoot up, fuck, and then get HIV and spread it as we repeat our nightly routine (thanks the 80's, you've given us so much). I don't want to write a 'cheap fuck-read' (or should it be 'cheap-fuck read'?). If you're looking for a story dripping with sex, don't read my stories. You won't find it. Sure, there'll be the occasional sex scene. But there wont always be, and I don't feel bad about that. I don't feel there needs to be. I haven't written about an HIV+ character in any of my stories because well, what could I draw from? I don't know anyone who's positive. I don't know what it's like to live with AIDS. Until I have even a glimmer of what that kind of life is like, I'm not going to be arrogant enough to try to write about it. I feel there's so much more to gay life and gay culture than those three tropes. I'm one of those people who hates writing sentences like that even. What is 'gay life'? I have sex with men. Yeah, I guess that does make me a homosexual. But so what? I'm not sure how very different my life would be if I were straight. And yes, before you start, I am aware of how lucky I am of that fact, to enjoy that kind of an environment, and yes, I recognize that not everyone else does. But I'm not going to write about that and pretend I can give it even an ounce of authenticity. I can't, and I'm not going to try. Basically, this is what I'm trying to say; if you want a story filled with gay sex, people who do drugs, or people who suffer through HIV, don't read my stories. You won't find what you're looking for. But above all, don't email me asking where these elements are. I don't care if they were part of your experience of being gay. What the hell gives you the right to assume everyone's experience is that way? Why the hell can't there be more than one 'gay life' or 'gay experience'? Asking where's the sex already is neither constructive, nor criticism. Don't tell an author what should be in their story. It's THEIR story. It's their baby. Don't fuck with it. Right. Now that that's clear, have a chipper day. Quote Link to comment
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