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Strangely enough, Mr.Bubbly over here has had those thoughts too. But then I found out I'm autistic. Okay, not profoundly so, but it's definitely there, and part of me. It's not like I can change it, but I just cannot relate to human beings very well. It's a supreme bummer to want to socialize, to be part of the group of humanity, and yet to be forever misunderstood. You want it, you can see it through the window, you can smell it through the screen door, you can even hear its many aspects, but it seems to be locked away, just out of reach.Now YOU, as aside from your previous denials that you might actually have this challenge in your life too, seem to be dwelling on something and/or someone other than yourself. You are hyper focussing on what is not to be, rather than on what is. (Hyper focussing is another autistic trait, so you might want to really think about dealing with your issues from that viewpoint, since the more you speak they more they look to be a factor at least, in your behavior) You need to do a benefit analysis of your life. Look at what you've actually got, not what got away. Then look at how what you have might actually lead you to getting what you want next (not what you've already lost and cannot replace). What you need is a different approach to life. When you're gay, but you keep dating girls to get your satisfaction, it's just not going to work. As the last girl departs over the horizon, you whine and mope about life being bad, and never getting an effective relationship, but it doesn't seem to be occurring to you that you are using the wrong approach. Banging the girl is not going to satify a romantic desire for a guy. Period. THIS IS AN ANALOGY, of course.BTW, revealing your name in public, while a good thing if done for the right reasons, would in this case merely be a disguised suicide attempt. It's a way of killing yourself without blame. It's risky behavior in order to be able to whine about the 'oh so sad' consequences later. It is actually a way of sidestepping your responsibility to yourself. I think you need to seriously list what you have in your life: everything. Then start to put them into 3 lists: good stuff, bad stuff, indifferent stuff. Make sure it includes relationships, physical things, and stuff like skills and abilities. Once you've listed all those things let us go over them, ask some questions, because you will have missed things (before you list the category), and then we analyze your +,-,0 compared to what you've done. I suspect we will quickly see a trend that you are not even seeing, and this can only help you. Nothing will change for you EXCEPT that you get someone else's view(s) but this may quite easily be enough. If not, I'm sure one or two here have enough imagination to actually come up with viable suggestions on changes.
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My understanding is that the dates of the seasons is based on when certain lines of latitude pass directly under the sun. When the sun is southernmost, at the Tropic of Capricorn, it is the shortest day in the north, and officially the start of winter, namely December 22. When it is the northernmost over the Tropic of Cancer, it is the longest day in the north, and shortest in the south, and the start of the northern summer, namely June 21. The dates when the sun crosses over the Equator is the start of either spring or autumn, depending on where you are. Those dates are March 21 (or 22?) and Sept 22, if I'm not horribly mistaken. There is simply no way to have this coincide with the first of any month, unless it has been politically assigned that way.
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Wow. That was fast thinking on the part of Cole. And it doesn't sound too much like he had to twist your arm very much either. Good going, both of you. Maybe Graeme and all the others should all write a Courage story. It could be a contest of sorts. No, maybe a collaboration? No, I think I'm losing it. Seriously, losing it. I gotta run to the bathroom, now.
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It's not the voracity of your words that we question, somewhat carefully while just out of reach, but their veracity.
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I don't get it. I really don't. I always thought that the seasons were balanced. You know, winter starts in the north at the same time as summer starts in the south. Spring in the south is the same start date as autumn in the north. However, it seems that this is not true, from what Des has just told us. This brings an interesting question to mind. Are all your southern seasons offset by a month, sort of like a gigantic Daylight Saving Time, only this is Season Saving Days? Or do some of those seasons start at the same time as our northern opposites, but some of your seasons are shorter or longer than ours? I'm particularly puzzled that the Aussie spring starts on September 1. This sounds entirely too coincidental to me, and I suspect political intrigue. How do they do it in South Africa? How about Argentina and Chile? Maybe it's just Aussies though. After all, weren't they the unruly from England in the first place. Never ones to just kowtow to the powers that be: noooo, radical to a fall(t).
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I'm sorry about your fence. If it is any consolation, I had something similar one time, and just got rid of the fence. Nice open lawn, and no annual maintenance of the fence.We had a storm 2 years ago. It was wicked, and tore the shingles off the roof of the shed. The insurance said to get an estimate from 3 roofers. Each said it was about $1500. The insurance company said, "no way" and hired another roofing company to give an estimate. This company came up with $315. Our deductible was $300. So, we would have to pay $300 ourselves, and the insurance would pay $15. The only catch: no roofing company would do it for $315, as it was a $1500 job. We got the name of the roofer who had quoted that amount to the insurance company, and they refused to do the job, saying that no reputable roofer would do that kind of job for $315. We asked them, "What the hell did you quote that amount for then?" "Well, we can cover the roof with tar paper for that, but it won't last in even a 10 km/h wind." Bastards. We finally ended up buying our own roofing tiles, and me, my sister, her kids, and some friends roofed the whole thing for $325, but properly, the equivalent of $1500 quality.In this area, we have several organizations which will help seniors and the working poor with free labor and 'at cost' materials if they request it. You may have something similar in your area. Check with your local volunteer centre. There usually is one around. If you can't find it, check with the local 'thrift shop', they should know.
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This is exquisite pain. Get ON with it already!
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From what I've read on here, ALL writers are struggling writers. If it isn't one problem, it's another.
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I couldn't get in there either, but I did take the trouble to explore a bit. I found a nice little story that kept me reading all afternoon, instead of doing up the minutes of a meeting I attended. http://hub-writing.org/vault/viewstory.php?sid=28Sadly, it was only pure luck that had me find it, as it was buried on the site. Rad Steven isn't listed in the authors there, so once I clicked off the location, it was only pure luck and my history of URLs visited that let me get back there. Somehow it seems like no site should host a story that cannot be found with relative ease.
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Shamelessly plugging? WTF? Des had to practically beg you for it.
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Believe me, I know the feeling. In particular about selling (or throwing away) something I got from someone I love(d). We have something similar, the garage sale, or in some cases where the weather is consistently good, the yard sale. I've only done it once, but truly, the only way to deal with it is to line up all the stuff you really cannot keep, for whatever reason, and be prepared to chuck it in the dustbin (or landfill if it's really big). Once you've made your peace with that; that it is going, in fact, mentally it is already gone; you see if you can get some money for what is truly already gone psychologically. Now it's more like finding free money on the street, and those people are not pawing through 'your stuff' since it's now essentially garbage, you having already parted with it mentally. I guess what I'm saying is, do your grieving before the event, not at it. It will make it a whole lot easier on you.
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'Twas the pits, Des. It belongs in pulp fiction.
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First, I agree: Thanks for AwesomeDude. Second, I disagree: You are not an A-hole from all I have seen. Third, appreciation. It's only since realizing I am gay that I have a much greater appreciation for a-holes.
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Peels of laughter from this segment; you're a slice.
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I'm surprised he didn't offer a door prize incentive. There are other possibilites though: religious recruiter, time share condo sales, boi toy slave seeker, fake alibi for a bank robber...
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It's not that bad, Des. So, let me guess: you're a little piggy?
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Obviously I am completely unable to determine what is in your mind. On the other hand, I DO know that if I take any kind of drugs, anything stronger than aspirin or Tylenol, I will get bad dreams that trap me. I will fling sheets and pillows across the room, trying to get away. My assessment, for what it's worth, is that you should do a proper cleansing. I suspect you are so toxic that you are walking poison to yourself. Although the nightmare is probably a function of your subconscious, it is anchored by the toxicity of your system. You are warning yourself, in essence, trying to rescue yourself. Do what your boss said, and seek help, but forgo the psychological stuff. Seek out a naturopathic doctor, ASAP, and get treatment for what's in your system. Believe me, even the wrong 'normal' food can be highly toxic. Things like coffee, wheat, booze can be slow but deadly poisoners. Make the appointment NOW, for TODAY. Go.
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Stop SCARING them.
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Oh, not so smart. He has a guy snuggling next to him, and another in his lap, and he agrees to STOP? How smart is THAT?
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"in the U.S., this is what families do."Except for voting, Cole. "Our family has voted democrat or republican for 8 generations, and we're always going to vote that way." I've heard this many times, seen it posted, and depicted on TV. I'll bet there's at least a bit of truth to that. 'Be free, my child, but vote with the family.'
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I agree with Des, terrific (no, that was great) blog entry.
The mother, in speaking to the coffin, was probably making a joke, as in "You'll be late to your own funeral." There was probably nobody in there. I read somewhere, or maybe saw it on TV, that cockroaches actually release gasses from their nether regions, which propels them faster than they would normally be expected to travel as an insect of that size. In other words, you were trying to use a rolled up paper to intercept a jet fighter. No wonder you weren't able to connect. -
Not enough parts for the class? How many in the class? (a) Why would they expect anyone at that age to be able to write a play for that many (a) people? I totally love the irreverence, and truly, it's almost cartoon violence, isn't it? It's not like they used guns like in a school.
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This is actually a very deep problem. There is a fine line between a parent wanting what is best for their child, and living the child's life for them. I think many parents find that they have not been able to live life the way they want, and transfer their own desires and dreams onto the child. This is unfair to the child, but perfectly logical for the parent, because it is simply too late for them to 'get there' themselves. Essentially, you need to break this cycle. If you put off your dreams in order to satisfy those of your parents, then you will need to pass yours down onto your own children. Since you are unlikely to have any without quite a struggle, as biologically gays don't do motherhood too well, you might never get the chance to pass on your dreams. You would live a life that never quite 'gets there' either, and that would be sad.So, what I'm saying is, realize that your parents will suffer the shattering of their dreams, but it is NOT up to you to fulfill those. You need to be true to yourself. You can be upset about it, and feel very sad about doing this to them, but you are not actually hurting them, they will be taking on any disappointment themselves. It is their responsibility to let you strike out on your own, and to look to their own happiness. You will undoubtedly have a nasty hard time for a while, but it will not likely last forever. You have my sympathy, and support, in your self determination.
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